“Special needs parenting is so lonely”
“It’s an isolating life being a parent of a child with special needs”
These are just a couple of things that I’ve read over the past couple of weeks and I must say, I really can’t relate.
I have to mention before I go on any further, this isn’t a post on me trying to brag or say that I’m any better than any other parent because that’s far from the truth. It can be difficult. But for me, it is not lonely.
I am incredibly lucky… maybe lucky isn’t the word? But I am forever grateful of what wonderful friends and family I have.
My family don’t live close by, my nearest family member to me is 168 miles away and in fact, my parents are over 1,000 miles away! But I still don’t feel lonely.
I have 4 brothers, all of which I speak to all the time, we FaceTime so much! I speak to my mum and dad on FaceTime at least once a day, usually more! People might think that’s not the same as being there in person and you’re right, it’s not but it’s certainly the next best thing (and lets be honest, if I seen them in person every day they would probably drive me nuts 🤪) and the most comforting part of being such a close family is knowing that if I ever did feel lonely, isolated or needed any help then I could call any member of my family and
they would be here at the drop of a hat. No questions asked.
And my friends, I don’t have hundreds but the friends I do have mean so much to me, I’ve heard from a lot of people that they say their friends become distant when they have a child with special needs, perhaps because they don’t know what to do or how to help and that’s very sad because the truth is, you don’t need to do anything to help, you don’t need to say anything special! Nothing changes. Just be a friend, like you always have!
Last but not least, my wonderful husband who keeps me sane! He just seems to make everything ok, I don’t even know how he does it but he makes me smile (and laugh!) each and every day, and that’s important! I can’t do this without mentioning my incredible daughter too, she is definitely not your typical nearly 4 year old, she is so thoughtful and caring it sometimes brings a tear to my eye! She is the best 😍
So this is a blog post to say thank you to my family and my friends, thank you for supporting me in every way you know how, thank you for loving me and my family and thank you for everything else in between!
So when I read about how lonely special needs parenting can be, I feel very lucky that I can’t relate to that ❤️